How

how to be happy.. read this.. something to share with u guys

· Perhaps above all, be healthy. Nothing is more valuable than your health and little is more likely to make you unhappy than ill-health.


· Most fundamentally, recognise that happiness is a state of mind and not something which can be defined objectively. You can change your state of mind in many ways including the following suggestions.


· More importantly than anything else, live with a partner whom you love and respect and who feels the same about you. Kiss and cuddle and compliment often and regularly buy unexpected little gifts.


· Wear the most expensive after-shave (usually men!) or perfume (usually women!!) you can afford. It will make you feel good.


· Surround yourself with pleasant smells. Have flowers, pot-pourri or scented candles in most rooms of the house and in your office.


· Stay close to nature. Have flowers and plants in your home and office


· Every so often, spend a little time observing the night sky. As you contemplate the distances and time involved, it will put your life and your concerns into more perspective.


· Listen to some rousing music.


· Keep a diary or journal.


· Take lots of photos.


· Have a favourite television programme.


· Go out and see a good movie.


· Treat yourself often to something 'cheap and cheerful' that you like - chocolates, flowers, a magazine, a cake, a CD. It costs little and you're worth it.


· Cultivate a few favourite places to eat and drink outside the home.


· Stretch yourself mentally.


· Stretch yourself geographically. Go to places you've never seen before. Even in your home town, try taking a different route than usual and notice the different locations that you've never seen before.


· Do something you've never done before, like visiting a particular art gallery or museum or going to a ballet or opera (or even just taking a different route to a familiar location). You'll probably surprise yourself at how much love it and you'll have found a new interest.


· If you can afford it, take regular holidays in different countries and savour different cultures.


· Keep in close touch with relatives and a small circle of friends. You can't beat their love and support.


· Conversely, if there is a person in your life who is a negative influence and who is dragging you down in some way, don't be afraid to get remove such a person from your life.


· Smile a lot. Smiles make you miles better - and you smiling will make others smile.


· Laugh a lot.


· Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty really is the best policy.


· Be politely assertive. Say how you feel and explain what you want. Friends and colleagues can't be mind readers.


· Give lots of compliments. You will make others feel good about themselves and find that this gives you pleasure too.


· Give small gifts to your friends. To give is even more pleasurable than to receive.


· Spend less than you earn.


· Use your credit card as a convenient way to pay for your major expenditures on a monthly basis - not to obtain credit at an outrageous level of interest.


· Don't borrow money unless you absolutely have to (for instance, to buy a house or car). Don't lend money - even to relatives - unless you genuinely don't mind if it's not repaid.


· If you are a woman, get your hair done. This will always make you feel better about yourself.


· Read a quality newspaper on a daily basis. Learning is fun and the easiest way to learn is to check out news and features each day so that, over time, your knowledge and interests grow and deepen.


· Take a weekly or monthly magazine reflecting a personal interest. You'll come to really look forward to each new issue, like a visit from a friend.


· Read regularly and widely. Good fiction will widen your vocabulary and put you in touch with your emotions, while a range of non-fiction will extend your knowledge and interests.


· Have a religious faith


If you follow all these suggestions and you're still not happy, you're either an android or an alien.