Wednesday 22 October 2008

Hear What Oprah Winfrey Had To Say About Men



If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.


Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you asyou deserve then heck no,
you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along,
then he probably is
Don't stay because you think "it will get better"
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when
things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women..

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
why would hetreat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
Even if he has more education or in a better job.


Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.


A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...
Compromise is two way street.


You need time to heal between relationships. ...
There is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship


You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. ..
Look for someone complimentary. ...not supplementary.


Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted

Never move into his mother's house..
Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful

You should know that:
You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you,

he'll miss out on a good thing.
If he was attracted to you in the 1st place,
just know that he's not the only one.


They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.
Make the right one.


Ladies take care of your ownhearts....


You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices,
and another woman prepare..


6 comments:

suriani said...

i couldnt agree more with oprah itu..

Anonymous said...

remember..
good woman is only for good man, vise-versa.
dont worry if a man leave u, because he is created not for you.
let the bad man go to hell with the bad woman.
good woman.. stay strong, focus, be grateful, cheer up, smile, celebrate, enjoy.. with what has been created for you... and as there is one day a good man coming to you..

Syiera said...

Heemm....macam pernah dengar pulak statement orang ni..:)
Btw, thanks again for your advice..!! :) :D

Anonymous said...

well iera, what oprah said is 99% true..x leh nak kata 100% true bcoz de gak kat luar sana yg x mcm tue..but then may be 1/100 la kot..hehe...man always take us for granted..masa blm dpt.. sanggup berkhemah dpn rmh..but once you hv fallen for him..btg idung pun susah nak nampak ;-)) kita yg pempuan nie kena la beringat.. don't giv them everything becoz if they left, you wl hv nothing..so, take gud care dear....

Syiera said...

Hi umi ameer (tertinggal plak umi..:))

Agree yea...samala..:D

Hi Iza..

I suka baca comment you ni, memang bermakna...Thanks iza for your advice, i've gone through worst than this..this is kacang..:) :D

Encik Ayie Yang Garang said...

kan i pun agree jugak dengan oprah tuh.. but why women marry men?? and why we freak out when men transforming themselves to become women? arent we suppose to be rejoicing it? there we go dengan hadith ayat quran semua. but when we ngutuk lelaki a/k/a jantan we spoke like no agama one... i wonder and i am wondering.....

ladies take care of not your heart but your maruah diri. it comprises all. good men are on the verge of extinction. ;-)